How Can I Save Our Relationship

Before I begin let me just say I am sorry for the rough times you must be going through right now in your relationship. I am assuming that you are having some sort of relationship problems that is why you are reading this.

So you ask “How can I save our Relationship?” I am going to give you three tips which might be able to make a difference in your relationship.

Before you invest too much time and emotions in trying to save to save your relationship, there are a few things you have to consider very carefully and honestly. First you have to figure out why you want to save your relationship. Now I know you might be thinking this is a dumb statement to make but most time people cling to things that are not worth saving or things they should let go.

We find ourselves clinging to things or a dying relationship because of reasons such as a fear of being alone or thinking that without this person you can’t have a happy life. OK, you have decided that your relationship is worth saving. So here are the tips you can follow to help you:

1. You have to realize it’s not all about you. In many problem relationships you find there is one person who carries most of the burden. They are the ones who I call the ‘the fixer.’ They carry the majority of the emotional baggage and if that person is you then you have to realize that you can’t do it all on your own. For the relationship to be saved your partner has to meet you half way and be willing and able to participate.

2. Try not accusing and critiquing when you try to communicate. There are a lot of hurt feelings and frustrations from both parties when a relationship starts to falter. As a result a lot of resentment can be built into a huge wall which makes it even hard to communicate with your partner. Be willing to put in plenty of time, patients and open communication in order to help save your relationship.

3. You have to own it, and take responsibility. You need to be a mature adult and admit when you screw up and apologize for it. In step 2 we spoke about resentment and this is your chance to ease them by owning up to your mistakes and offer a sincere apology for the hurt you caused. This will be a very sweet sound to someone who loves you and wants the relationship to work.

You will be on your way to answering the question “How can I save our relationship?” by following theses 3 steps. Just remember the problems didn’t happen overnight so don’t expect them to be resolved overnight either. You can get back the loving, fulfilling relationship you both want if you both are willing to work at it together.